Grief and Sorrow according to Islam
In today’s war stricken world, almost majority of Muslims are afflicted with grief, whether it be loosing loved ones, being alienated by friends by seeing his devotion towards God, or anything in between.
Lets see what Islam has to say about these things.
You shall certainly be tried and tested in your possessions and in your personal selves; and you shall certainly hear much that will distress you, from those who received the Book before you, and from those who worship many gods. But if you persevere patiently, and guard against evil-then that will be the determining factor in everything.(Aal `Imran 3:186)
And certainly, We shall test you with a bit of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits. But give glad tidings to the patient ones who, when afflicted with a calamity, say: “Truly! To Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return.” They are those upon whom are the blessings, descend from their Lord, and they receive His Mercy, and it is they who are guided.” (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:155-157)
So, from the above verses we can see it is kind of destiny for the believers to be tested.
Nobody can’t escape the test/trials/tribulation.
Now why is the test?
“Allah will not leave the believers in the state in which you are now until He distinguishes the wicked from the good.” (Surah Al ‘Imrân 3:179)
Do the people think that they will be left to say, “We believe” and they will not be tried? (29:2)
But We have certainly tried those before them, and Allah will surely make evident those who are truthful, and He will surely make evident the liars. (29:3)
“We will surely test you with something of fear and huger, and the loss of wealth and lives and the fruits (of your toil), but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere, who say—when afflicted with calamity—“To God We belong, and to Him we shall return!” They are on those whom descend blessings from their Lord, and Mercy. Such are the rightly guided.” (Quran 2:155-157)
So in simple words, it is easier to say I believe in Allah swt, than show it by enduring the suffering, fighting, striving for the sake of Allah.
So if you are going through difficult moment then consider yourself lucky because Allah swt considered you worthy enough to be tested.
If He has not found at least a tiny bit of faith in your heart then he wouldn’t have tested you and made everything for you easier.
Now that we know the tests are destined to happen. So how we deal with it, well Allah swt has given us the answer himself.
039.053 Say: “O my Servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah: for Allah forgives all sins: for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
First of all, never despair at the mercy of Allah.
How can a believer despair at the mercy of Allah.
Don’t you believe that Allah can fix everything in one way or the other?
Despairing is a quality of a disbeliever because :
Talaq 65:3] And Allah will provide him sustenance from a place he had never expected; and whoever relies on Allah – then Allah is Sufficient for him; indeed Allah will accomplish His command; indeed Allah has set a proper measure for all things.
[Talaq 65:5] This is Allah’s command that He has sent down towards you; and whoever fears Allah – Allah will relieve his sins and bestow upon him a great reward.
And also remember test is a blessing because :
Prophet Muhammad, may God praise him, said:
“There is no Muslim who is stricken with a calamity and (then) says what God has enjoined (to say): ‘Verily, to God we belong and unto Him is our return; O God, reward me for my affliction and compensate me with something better’ but God will compensate him with something better.” (Sahih Muslim)
We should remember that God tests those whom He loves most. The Prophet said:
“The greatest reward comes with the greatest trial. When God loves a people, He tests them. Whoever accepts this, wins His Pleasure.” (Al-Tirmidhi)
And the Prophet said further:
“The path to Paradise is surrounded with difficulties.”
Calamity and grief is a way of having our sins forgiven in this life, so that we won’t have to face the punishment for these sins in the next life.
Prophet Muhammad said:
“Trials will continue to befall the believing man and woman—with regard to themselves, their children, and their wealth—until they meet God with no sin on them.” (Al-Tirmidhi)
God does not send calamity down upon us in order to destroy us, nor to shatter our will, nor to finish us off, but rather as a means of checking on us, to test our patience and faith. If it were not for trials and tribulations, a person would develop arrogance, heedlessness, and hardheartedness, which would lead him to the pits of Hell. So it is indeed a Mercy of God that He sends down upon us this remedy to cure us of these diseases of the heart, and to eliminate all evil elements in our personality that might lead to our doom.
When some calamity strikes us in this life, we should remember that Allah will recompense us, but we must show patience; the ultimate recompense will not even be in this life, but in the next one, and in this, we should take comfort.
May Allah give the Muslims sabr.